Online dating and true love – is it possible? Long gone are the days when meeting the eyes of the stranger at the restaurant or a bar created a spark that made you weak at the knees. It still happens – but very rarely. Because the way things are – you are probably swiping left and right as we speak. We are less and less trusting our own intuition and are more and more putting our hearts in the hands of technology and its algorithms. But hey – not criticizing. That’s just the way things are and the best you can do is equip yourself with some online dating success statistics to find out if online dating is really for you when it comes to finding true love.
You might not know this about me, but I’ve struggled with self-love for years. I think the moment I’ve hit puberty, was the moment when I realized that I could be a better version of myself than I already was. Hidden behind my sunny disposition were dark clouds of insecurities and low self-esteem. I’ve never told my friends anything, because I’ve wanted to “at least appear confident,” while deep down I’ve felt unworthy and inadequate. Middle school and high school years were a period when I’ve hit an all-time low.
So you walk into a bar, order your regular and never think much of it. However, what if you knew that you’re being judged by your choice of drink? Also – what if you knew that you’re judging other people by their choices? We tend to think that only our appearance, verbal and nonverbal communication shape how we’re perceived, but our drink choices play a big role too.
Heart is a fickle little thing. One moment it’s all in, next moment it’s all out. They say that “all is fair in love and war” and sometimes it seems like our heart is mercilessly waging a war on our mind and vice versa. It is a true struggle, a constant push and pull. Heart wants what it wants and our judgment is clouded, because we are so in love with an idea.
Are you romantic to the point that it’s hopeless? If yes – you are in the right place when it comes to the matters of heart, but are probably finding it hard to find your place somewhere in the real world. Expectations and reality don’t stand next to each in a dictionary and sadly enough – they are strangers when it comes to our love life as well. Being a hopeless romantic, you are somewhat of a romantic renegade.
A few summers ago, during one of the nights out with a bunch of my very close friends, I’ve met a man in his thirties. To be honest, I don’t go out expecting anything. I think that it’s extremely rare that someone meets his or her soulmate at a nightclub. What I do look for are those a bit tipsy individuals with interesting stories to tell. People are such an inspiration and what you’ll find sometimes is that some of them are there just because they needed someone to talk to. Now, back to the man in his thirties. I forgot his name, as I usually do within five minutes of meeting someone, but I’ll never forget what he told me and what kind of impact his story had on me. I am not exactly sure how the conversation steered towards his romantic life, but we eventually got there and he revealed that he’s in his thirties already, has never had a girlfriend or experienced real love, has never really been intimate with a woman and it’s all thanks to the restaurant business he runs. I was equal amount surprised and sad. I thought – no, it can’t be! Therefore I’ve been thinking – is there such a thing as being too busy for love? Here’s what some of my wonderful and very busy friends had to say about it…